Parenting Perspective 

Arguments between siblings are normal, but unresolved tension carried into sleep can deepen resentment. A short, nightly ritual helps children practise apology and forgiveness in a way that feels natural rather than forced. The goal is to end the day with peace, teaching them that family bonds are more important than winning arguments. 

Keep the Ritual Simple 

Instead of a long process, create a small closing act before bed. For example: “Before we switch off the light, everyone says one kind word or sorry if needed.” This keeps it short and sustainable. 

Model What It Looks Like 

Join in yourself: “I am sorry if I sounded impatient today. I love you both.” When parents admit mistakes, children learn that apology is not weakness but strength. 

Use Neutral Prompts 

Some children resist a direct “Say sorry.” Instead, use prompts like: 

• “What is one thing you liked about each other today?” 

• “Anything we should clear up before sleep?” 

End With Togetherness 

After apologies or kind words, close with a shared action a hug, handshake, or even reciting a short Dua together. This helps children feel restored and safe as they rest. 

By making repair a brief, warm ritual, you prevent grudges from lingering overnight and teach children that conflict is not the end of love. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam emphasises reconciliation and forgiveness, even within families. Ending the day with apology and repair reflects prophetic character, softening hearts before sleep and ensuring no bitterness carries into the night. 

Guidance from the Noble Quran 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Aa’raaf (7), Verses 199: 

‘(O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ) adopt a forgiving approach, and encourage (the doing of) positive (moral actions), and disregard those who are imbued in their ignorance.’ 

This reminds us that forgiveness is a core value, and choosing it restores relationships and peace. 

Teaching from the Hadith 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 2609, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The strong person is not the one who overcomes others by force, but the one who controls himself when angry.’ 

This teaches us that true strength lies in calming anger and choosing reconciliation. 

By ending each day with a simple ritual of apology and kind words, you guide siblings to value forgiveness over pride. They learn that love is always greater than conflict, and that peaceful hearts sleep more soundly under Allah Almighty’s mercy.