Parenting Perspective 

Snack time often becomes a point of conflict when siblings have different ages, appetites, or dietary needs. One child may require an extra portion due to growth, while another may need limits due to health. If not managed fairly, resentment builds and mealtimes turn into battles. The solution lies in creating a plan that feels balanced, transparent, and respectful of individual needs while maintaining a sense of equality. 

Establish Clear Guidelines 

Decide in advance what counts as a standard snack, such as one fruit, a small sandwich, or a handful of nuts. This prevents arguments about “who got more.” 

Adjust Quietly for Needs 

If one child requires extra food, provide it discreetly rather than in front of siblings. This avoids comparisons while still meeting their individual requirements. 

Rotate Special Choices 

Let children take turns choosing a snack once or twice a week. This builds fairness into decision-making and reduces rivalry. 

Use Inclusive Language 

Say, “Each of you has what your body needs right now,” instead of “You already had enough.” This reassures children that differences are about care, not favouritism. 

Focus on Atmosphere 

Keep snack time calm and predictable, free from bargaining or pleading. When children trust the system, fairness feels built in. 

Handled with consistency, this plan turns snack time from a competition into an opportunity for trust, respect, and balance. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches justice, fairness, and compassion in dealing with others, including within the family. Meeting each child’s needs without showing preference reflects the prophetic example of mercy and balance in parenting. 

Guidance from the Noble Quran 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Nisa (4), Verses 58: 

‘Indeed, Allah (Almighty) commands you to execute all trusts to their rightful owners; and when you (are asked to) judge between people, that you should judge with justice…’ 

This reminds us that fairness and justice are divine commands, even in small daily matters such as sharing food. 

Teaching from the Hadith 

It is recorded in Riyadh Al Saliheen, Hadith 49, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Fear Allah and be just with your children.’ 

This teaches us that fairness among children is not optional but a duty tied to taqwa (God-consciousness). 

By creating a snack plan that honours each child’s needs while avoiding rivalry, you model fairness as part of faith. Children learn that justice in the family is an act of love and that Allah Almighty values balance in even the smallest of daily decisions.