Parenting Perspective 

After school, children are often tired, hungry, or flooded with thoughts. Asking “How was school?” usually gets you a quick “fine” or “okay.” To draw out real answers without overwhelming them, you need one short, specific check-in that becomes part of the daily rhythm. When framed with care, this two-minute moment can open space for genuine connection. 

Use One Consistent Open Question 

Choose a simple phrase that feels natural, such as: 

• “What was the best and trickiest part of today?” 

• “What is one thing you would like me to know from school?” 

• “Who made you smile today?” 

Keep It Focused and Short 

Rather than piling on questions, let your child answer in their own way. Sometimes you will get one sentence, other times a whole story. The point is the opportunity, not the length. 

Show You are Listening 

Make eye contact, give a nod or smile, and avoid interrupting. Even a two-minute check-in feels rich when children sense your undivided attention. 

Build It Into Routine 

Link the check-in to a snack, car ride, or walk home. Consistency makes it easier for your child to open up without pressure. 

This way, a brief check-in becomes an anchor, not an interrogation, where your child feels safe to share what matters most. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam encourages parents to listen with gentleness and care, making space for children’s voices. Brief but sincere moments of listening remind children that their experiences are valued, and that gratitude and empathy belong in family conversations. 

Guidance from the Noble Quran 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verses 10: 

‘Indeed, the believers are brothers (to each other); so, make peace with your brothers; and seek piety from Allah (Almighty) so that you may receive His Mercy.’ 

This reminds us that harmony begins with listening and reconciling hearts, including within families. 

Teaching from the Hadith 

It is recorded in Sunan Nisai, Hadith 5379, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The most beloved of people to Allah are those who are most beneficial to others.’ 

This teaches us that listening and caring for what is in another’s heart is itself a form of benefit and service. 

By using one thoughtful question each day, you give your child both space and security. They learn that sharing their day with you is not about reporting but about being heard, and that family connection is a blessing from Allah Almighty.