Parenting Perspective 

When you have made a mistake, such as raising your voice or acting in a way that hurts your child, offering a brief and sincere apology can be very effective in repairing your emotional bond. Young children in particular may not understand the complex reasons for our actions, but they are highly attuned to the sincerity in our words and tone. The goal is to be clear, acknowledge the specific harm, and own your mistake without over-explaining. 

Be Simple and Specific 

A brief apology should directly address the harm caused without adding unnecessary details. By focusing on the specific behaviour that was hurtful, you show your child that you are aware of the impact your actions had on them. 

You could say: ‘I am sorry for raising my voice earlier. I know that upset you, and I should not have done that.’ 

This line is specific about the behaviour (raising your voice) and acknowledges the emotional harm it caused. It is clear and direct, showing your child that you recognise and validate their feelings. 

Take Full Responsibility 

It is important to take complete responsibility for the harm you caused. This reinforces the idea that mistakes are a normal part of life, but owning them is how we demonstrate accountability and grow. 

You might say: ‘I raised my voice, and that was not fair to you. I will work on doing better next time.’ 

This statement takes full ownership, reassures your child of your good intentions, and includes a commitment to improve in the future. 

Reaffirm Your Love 

After acknowledging the harm, it is crucial to reassure your child that they are still loved and valued. This helps to rebuild their emotional security, especially after an upsetting moment. 

You can say: ‘I am sorry, and I love you very much. I will be more careful next time.’ 

This simple phrase reinforces both the apology and your commitment to maintaining a loving and safe relationship with your child. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, acknowledging our mistakes and seeking forgiveness is an essential part of personal and spiritual growth. Taking responsibility for the harm we cause aligns perfectly with the principles of humility and accountability that our faith teaches. 

The Importance of Seeking Forgiveness 

The noble Quran emphasises the importance of turning to Allah Almighty and seeking forgiveness for our sins, showing that repentance is a key part of our journey. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Aalai Imran (3), Verse 135: 

‘ And when those people who have committed immoral actions, or wronged themselves; (they should) remember Allah (Almighty), and then ask for forgiveness for their sins; and who can forgive their sins except Allah (Almighty)…’ 

This verse encourages us to be quick in seeking forgiveness, which is a sign of a heart that is mindful of Allah. 

Repentance as a Path to Improvement 

The teachings of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ highlight that while we all make mistakes, the act of repenting and acknowledging our faults is what elevates us. 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 4251, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘All the children of Adam are sinners, and the best of those who sin are those who repent.’ 

This hadith reminds us that by apologising sincerely to our children, we not only repair our worldly relationships but also embody the spirit of repentance and humility that brings us closer to Allah.