Parenting Perspective 

Certain children might express themselves without using words because of their age, language delays, developmental differences, or other factors. Instructing them on how to manage anger involves using creative visual aids, hands-on activities, and organised communication techniques. It is a misunderstanding to assume that they cannot learn emotional strategies solely because they are unable to speak. 

Establish supportive tools for emotional regulation 

• Create visual or tactile aids like emotion cards, calming jars, or a simple ‘stop’ card 

• Use pictures to reflect emotions for example, a storm cloud to symbolise rising anger 

• Teach clear actions to pair with tools: squeeze a toy, count, or move to a calm zone 

Use consistent, inclusive communication 

• Practise the routine during calm moments and offer praise for using it 

• If your child uses sign language, introduce signs like ‘calm’, ‘help’, or ‘stop’ 

• Offer older non-verbal children alternative methods like written words or picture cards 

Through repetition and structure, children can learn to navigate strong emotions and express themselves in meaningful ways, regardless of speech. This reflects that calm self-expression is achievable for every child. 

Spiritual Insight 

Allah Almighty emphasises the importance of intention and effort, not just speech. In Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verse 286, Allah Almighty states: 

‘…O our Sustainer, do not take us to task for our omissions and our mistakes … ‘

This verse assures parents that their efforts and intentions are acknowledged by Allah Almighty, even if they are not verbally expressed. Every effort to assist a non-verbal child in managing their anger holds important meaning. 

It is reported in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 4229, that the Holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘People will be resurrected (and judged) according to their intentions. ‘

This principle allows us to honour each child’s effort in learning emotional control, even when words are not used. 

Teach your child a simple tactile practice such as pressing a gratitude stone while thinking ‘Calm’ and pair it with a silent Dua: 

‘O Allah, help me choose calm. ‘

By supporting both purposeful action and spiritual intention, we help children grow in self-regulation and reflect Islamic values in how they respond to emotions.