How do I help my child respect different authority figures outside the home? 

Parenting Perspective 

Defining Respect as Good Manners 

Teaching your child to show respect to non-family figures such as teachers at the mosque, coaches, community members or elders is an important part of their Adab and social confidence. Start by explaining that respect is not about fear, but about good manners, listening properly when someone speaks and treating others with kindness. 

Using Real-Life Examples and Role-Play 

Use real-life examples to make it clear. Show your child how to greet someone older with Salam, use polite words like ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ and wait their turn to speak. Practise at home through simple role plays. You could act out how to ask a question during a lesson, help an adult carry something or apologise sincerely if they make a mistake. 

Handling Disagreements Respectfully 

Talk to your child about what to do if they disagree with an adult’s instruction. Remind them it is fine to ask questions, but always in a calm and respectful way. Praise your child when they remember these manners, even in small ways. 

Most importantly, let them see you treating elders and community leaders with kindness and respect. This shows your child that true respect is not just spoken, it is an attitude that builds trust and brings Barakah wherever they go. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us that respecting elders and people in authority is not just social politeness but part of good character and a sign of humility. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Isra (17), Verse 23: 

‘And your Lord has decreed that you do not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment… ‘

While this Ayah speaks of parents, it reminds us of that honour and good treatment extend to all those who guide and care for us. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1921, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘He is not one of us who does not show mercy to our young ones and respect our elders… ‘

Share this with your child so they see that respect is not about being perfect but about trying sincerely to honour those who teach or help us. Make a simple Dua before leaving for classes or community gatherings: O Allah, grant me good manners and help me act kindly. Talk about how showing respect to authority figures is part of representing Islam well, it reflects on their family and faith. When your child learns to balance confidence with humility, they build strong relationships rooted in trust, care, and the beautiful Adab that pleases Allah Almighty and brings His mercy wherever they go, InshaAllah.