How do I encourage my child to learn personal hygiene? 

Parenting Perspective 

Start with Small, Patient Steps 

Personal hygiene can be challenging for children, especially those with special educational needs (SEN) or sensory sensitivities. Tasks like washing hands, brushing teeth, showering, or using deodorant can feel uncomfortable, confusing, or boring. Start by remembering that small, patient steps work better than sudden, strict demands. 

Use Simple Routines and Visuals 

Use simple, clear routines. Visual schedules or checklists can help your child see what to do and in what order: ‘Wash hands, soap, rinse, dry.’ Keep soap, towels, and other items in easy-to-reach places so your child feels confident doing things on their own. 

Make Hygiene Positive 

Turn hygiene tasks into something positive, not a punishment. For example, let them choose a fun toothbrush, a towel with a favourite character, or a soap that smells nice. Offer choices: ‘Do you want to wash your face first or brush your teeth first?’ Practise skills at calm times; do not wait for when everyone is rushing out the door. Role-play with dolls or teddy bears: ‘Look, bear is washing his hands before eating; good job, bear!’ 

Be Patient and Model the Behaviour 

Be patient with sensory issues. Some children dislike certain textures, water on their face, or loud hand dryers. Respect what feels too much for them and find alternatives, like using a flannel instead of splashing water directly on their face. Model the habits yourself. Let your child see you washing your hands before meals or brushing your teeth. Small daily repetition builds trust that these tasks are normal and important. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches that personal hygiene is not just about cleanliness; it is part of our faith. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verse 222: 

‘…Indeed, Allah loves those who are constantly repentant and loves those who purify themselves. ‘

This Ayah reminds us that cleanliness brings us closer to what Allah Almighty loves. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was the best example of personal care. He ﷺ kept his teeth clean with the Miswak, bathed regularly, and encouraged his companions to maintain good hygiene. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 887, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘If I had not found it hard for my Ummah, I would have ordered them to clean their teeth with the Miswak for every prayer. ‘

This shows the importance of cleanliness but also the mercy of not overburdening people. 

Make a gentle Dua with your child: ‘O Allah Almighty, help me care for my body in ways that please You.’ Remind them that looking after their body is a way of thanking Allah Almighty for His gift. 

With your warm guidance, clear steps, and trust in Allah Almighty’s help, your child will, InshaAllah, grow to see personal hygiene not as a chore, but as an act of care, faith, and dignity.