Parenting Perspective 

Bedtime and transitions from screens represent critical junctures in the daily routine of a child. During such instances, it is not uncommon for children to experience feelings of being overwhelmed, overstimulated, or, indeed, resistant to ceasing an activity that they find enjoyable. 

It is a well-established fact that tantrums during transitional periods are prevalent among young children. This phenomenon can be attributed to their limited capacity to regulate emotions and their struggle to comprehend expectations that are bound by time. 

Establishing Routine and Anticipation 

In order to effectively address this matter, it is imperative that we prioritise consistency and thorough preparation. It is imperative that parents establish a consistent routine, thereby ensuring that the child is aware of forthcoming events and experiences a sense of security. 

Practical steps include: 

• Implementing verbal cues such as, ‘In ten minutes we will switch off the screen.’ 

• Using a composed and precise countdown to assist mental preparation. 

• Avoiding fast-paced screen content, especially in the hours leading up to bedtime. 

Soothing Activities and Responding Calmly 

During the nighttime hours, it is imperative that the established routine incorporates soothing activities. 

Effective options include: 

• Gentle listening of soft recitations. 

• Quiet reading. 

Both serve to effectively guide the child towards a state of restful slumber. 

If a tantrum arises, it is imperative to respond with composure, reiterate the established boundaries with both firmness and gentleness, and permit the child to articulate their feelings of frustration, all while maintaining a steadfast position without yielding to demands. 

It is evident that, over time, a consistent structure serves to instil a sense of safety and support in the child, thereby facilitating a greater ability to anticipate transitions with increased ease. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam emphasises the importance of gentle parenting, especially when emotions run high. It is not only about managing a tantrum but also about guiding a child’s character in a way that aligns with the values of Sabr, mercy, and consistency. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Luqman (31), Verse 17: 

O my son, establish your prayers, and (seek to) promote positivity, and (seek to) diminish negativity; and be patient with what afflictions you come across; indeed, these (matters require) fortified determination. 

This verse reminds parents that being patient in raising their children is a sign of determination and strong values. Helping children navigate daily challenges, like switching from screens to bedtime, is an important aspect of teaching them what is right. 

Furthermore, it is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 2594a, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

Kindness is not to be found in anything but that it adds to its beauty, and it is not withdrawn from anything, but it makes it defective. 

This Hadith is especially important when a child’s behaviour tests a parent’s patience. By demonstrating self-control and maintaining a balance of firmness and kindness, parents can embody the Prophetic example in their households. 

The challenges of bedtime and screen time present chances to establish clear boundaries and encourage emotional growth in a faith-based setting. 

Incorporating Duas before sleep and making short, calm reflections part of the routine can strengthen the spiritual bond between parent and child, helping them settle both emotionally and spiritually.