Parenting Perspective 

Explain That Difference is Not Wrong 

Children naturally notice when their friends’ families do things differently, and this curiosity can sometimes sound like judgment. It is important to explain that every family has its own way of doing things, and that being different is not the same as being wrong. Use simple, affirming language: ‘Our friends might eat different food from us, and that is perfectly okay. We show them respect by always being kind.’ Encourage them to ask polite questions out of a desire to understand, not to criticise. 

Model Respect in Daily Life 

Children learn best from observation. It is crucial to model respect in your own conversations about people from different backgrounds. Avoid making negative comparisons and instead focus on shared human values like kindness and honesty. When you see your child showing respect, such as trying a new food at a friend’s house without complaint, praise their open-mindedness. This reinforces the idea that respect makes friendships stronger. 

Respect is the Foundation of Good Relationships 

By normalising difference and modelling respectful behaviour, you help your child learn that diversity is part of life, and that respect is the foundation of all good relationships, both within the family and beyond. 

Spiritual Insight 

Diversity is a Sign of Allah’s Wisdom 

Islam teaches that the diversity of humanity is a sign of Allah’s creative power. The Quran explains that we were made into different peoples and tribes not to despise one another, but so that we might come to know one another. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 13: 

‘O mankind, indeed, We (Allah Almighty) have created you all from one man and one woman; and placed you amongst various nations and tribes for your introduction to each other; indeed, the best of you in the judgement of Allah (Almighty) is the one who is most virtuous; indeed, Allah (Almighty) is the Omniscient, the all Cognisant.‘ 

Our Worth is in Our Benefit to Others 

The prophetic tradition teaches that the most beloved people to Allah are not those of a particular background, but those who are most beneficial to others. This encourages a focus on good character and service over superficial differences. 

It is recorded in Riyadh Al Saliheen, 627, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The most beloved of people to Allah are those who are most beneficial to others.’ 

Respecting Differences as an Islamic Duty 

When you teach your child that respecting the differences between people is an Islamic duty, they begin to see diversity as a beautiful part of Allah’s plan. This perspective nurtures an open heart, humility, and true compassion in their friendships.