Parenting Perspective 

When a child misbehaves after school, it often shows that they are experiencing stress rather than simply acting out. The school day may involve moments when they feel misinterpreted, overwhelmed, or uncertain about how to express their needs. Upon returning home, they may find it more difficult to manage their emotions and actions. 

This emotional release is often referred to as after-school restraint collapse. Rather than responding with irritation, offer reassurance and space. 

Create a comforting post-school routine 

• Serve a snack 

• Allow for quiet time or engage in physical activity 

• Maintain a predictable rhythm to help them recalibrate 

Foster emotional safety and expression 

• Provide safe ways to express anger 

• Help your child name what they are feeling 

• Reinforce that home is a place of understanding, not discipline 

Your consistent presence builds trust and teaches your child that even difficult emotions can be handled with care and clarity. 

Spiritual Insight 

Allah Almighty states in Surah Al Inshirah (94), Verses 5–6: 

Thus with (every) hardship there is facilitation (from Allah Almighty). Indeed, with (every) hardship there is facilitation (from Allah Almighty). 

These Verses offer assurance that relief follows difficulty. A child who breaks down emotionally at home after a demanding day is not trying to upset their parent; they are seeking comfort in the way they know best. Recognising this helps inspire a gentler, more compassionate response. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6114, that the Holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger. ‘

This Hadith teaches that strength is shown through inner control rather than external dominance. Teaching your child to seek strength in patience aligns them with prophetic character. 

Introduce a brief Dua to recite together: 

‘Allahumma ajirni minash-shaytaanir-rajeem (O Allah, protect me from the accursed devil) ‘

This spiritual habit can become a calming anchor, helping your child turn to Allah Almighty during emotional storms and build a foundation of emotional resilience.