Parenting Perspective 

Apologise Simply and Genuinely 

Children learn far more from our actions than our words. When you overreact, the most powerful lesson you can offer is to admit it openly. A calm and simple apology, such as, ‘I am sorry for raising my voice; I should have spoken more calmly,’ shows your child that everyone makes mistakes, but that strong people take responsibility. It is important to keep the apology genuine and to avoid blaming the child for your reaction. 

Turn It Into a Teachable Moment 

After apologising, you can explain what you will try to do differently in the future: ‘Next time I feel frustrated, I will take a deep breath before I speak.’ This demonstrates that a sincere apology is connected to a commitment to change, not just empty words. By consistently owning your mistakes, you set a powerful example that apologising is a sign of maturity, not weakness. 

Apologies are a Sign of Maturity and Love 

This teaches children to value sincerity and accountability, making them more likely to practise it themselves. It shows them that apologies are not signs of weakness, but of maturity and love. 

Spiritual Insight 

Restraining Anger is Beloved to Allah 

Islam honours humility and sincerity, and parents are not exempt from seeking forgiveness when they make a mistake. The Quran specifically praises those who are able to restrain their anger and pardon others, describing them as being beloved by Allah. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Aalai Imran (3), Verse 134: 

‘Those (the believers are the ones) that spend (in the way of Allah Almighty) in times of abundance and hardship; they suppress their anger; and are forgiving to people; and Allah (Almighty) loves those who are benevolent.‘ 

The Best Who are Those Who Repent 

The prophetic tradition teaches us that making mistakes is a natural part of being human. True honour is found not in being perfect, but in having the humility to admit our faults and turn back to what is right with sincerity. 

It is recorded in Mishkaat Al Masaabih, 2341, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘All of the children of Adam are sinners, and the best of sinners are those who repent often.’ 

Accountability is Part of Faith 

When you apologise sincerely to your child, you are teaching them that accountability and mercy are core parts of our faith. This act not only repairs your bond with them in that moment but also plants a seed in their heart, teaching them the value of humility and truthfulness before Allah.