Parenting Perspective 

Many children often resist going to sleep, especially after a day filled with emotional or sensory stimulation. Bedtime anger is frequently a sign of deeper concerns such as anxiety, restlessness, or fear of missing out. Younger children might cry or stall, while older children may argue or delay intentionally. Sleep is more than a physical need; it requires emotional release. When bedtime feels abrupt or imposed, anger may arise as a form of emotional self-protection. 

Establish a calm evening routine 

Begin winding down at least thirty minutes before bedtime. Avoid: 

• Screen use 

• High-energy activities 

• Problem-solving or complex tasks 

Replace them with: 

• Gentle reading 

• Dim lighting 

• Soft conversation 

Communicate what to expect: 

• After your bath, we will read one story, and then it will be time for sleep. 

For emotionally expressive children, set aside a few minutes to discuss their day before sleep. This honours their need for connection and provides emotional closure. 

Respond to anger with steadiness 

If your child becomes angry, respond with compassion and clarity: 

• I understand that you are upset. It is still time for sleep. 

With consistent routines and emotionally safe boundaries, bedtime becomes less of a battleground and more of a peaceful transition. Over time, your child learns to associate sleep with safety and emotional release. 

Spiritual Insight 

The noble Quran describes night-time as a divine gift. Allah Almighty states in Surah Al Furqaan (25), Verse 47: 

And it is He (Allah Almighty) Who has designated for you the night as a cover (for respite), and sleep for your rejuvenation; and designated the day for re‑energising (the Earth with automated light energy). 

This verse links sleep to renewal and mercy. When children learn that rest is a gift from Allah Almighty, they begin to welcome it as a time of peace and divine care. 

Holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ maintained a consistent and spiritually rich night routine. He recited Duas, reflected on the day, and encouraged seeking forgiveness before sleep. One recommended Sunnah is reciting Ayat Al Kursi (Surah Al‑Baqarah, 2:255), which brings peace and protection. Teach your child that bedtime is not just a pause but a moment of spiritual transition. 

‘O Allah, bring peace to my heart and protect me as I sleep. ‘

With patience and rhythm, bedtime becomes a space for mercy and reflection, not resistance. Through spiritual grounding and emotional warmth, your child learns to close each day in peace, surrender, and Rahmah.