Parenting Perspective 

Preserve Their Dignity 

Making a mistake in public can be overwhelming for a child, and a forced apology on the spot often creates embarrassment instead of sincerity. The first priority should be to preserve their dignity. If your child has upset someone, gently take them aside and offer support: ‘It is important that we make this right, and I will help you.’ You can then offer them simple, respectful words to use. This makes the experience feel like guidance, not a public punishment. 

Balance Accountability with Protection 

If your child is too distressed to apologise in the moment, you can politely speak on their behalf and then revisit the situation with them privately later on. Role-playing at home can help them to build the confidence to apologise in public in the future. Afterwards, be sure to praise their courage: ‘I know that was difficult, and I am proud of you for doing it.’ This teaches them that humility is a valued strength. 

Apologising Without Shame 

By blending gentle guidance with emotional safety, you help your child learn that apologies can be made in public without shame. This strengthens both their relationships and their confidence in doing the right thing. 

Spiritual Insight 

Protecting Honour and Dignity 

Islam encourages reconciliation, but always with wisdom and mercy. The Quran explicitly forbids believers from insulting one another or using offensive names, which shows that protecting a person’s dignity is a central part of Islamic manners. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 11: 

‘…And do not insult each other; and do not call each other by (offensive) nicknames; how bad is it to be called by nefarious names after the attainment of faith…’ 

Good Character Perfects Faith 

The prophetic tradition teaches that the most complete believers are those who have the best character. Handling difficult public situations with humility, respect, and a desire to make amends is a true sign of strong faith. 

It is recorded in Riyadh Al Saliheen, 278, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The most perfect of the believers in faith are those with the best character.’ 

Forgiveness with Dignity 

When you connect the act of apologising to the Islamic values of dignity and good character, your child learns that seeking forgiveness is not a shameful act. Instead, it is a way of earning respect from others and a reward from Allah. This balance helps to nurture their sincerity, humility, and confidence.