Parenting Perspective 

Create a Safe Space for Honesty 

Children often shift blame because they are afraid of the consequences of their actions. To encourage them to be honest, it is crucial to create a safe environment where admitting a mistake does not feel frightening. Instead of an accusatory question like, ‘Why did you do that?’ try a gentler approach: ‘I can see something has gone wrong here. Can you tell me what happened?’ This tone lowers their defensiveness and makes it easier for them to be truthful. 

Model Accountability and Praise Honesty 

The best way to teach this is to model accountability in your own life. Admitting your own small mistakes shows them it is a normal part of life. When your child does admit to a mistake, it is vital to praise their honesty first: ‘Thank you for telling me the truth. That was a brave thing to do.’ You can then guide them towards finding a solution, rather than dwelling on the blame. This teaches them that honesty leads to support, not shame. 

Honesty is What Builds Trust 

By making accountability safe and modelling it yourself, you teach your child that mistakes are a normal part of learning, but it is honesty that builds lasting trust and strengthens character. 

Spiritual Insight 

Sincere Repentance is the Path to Mercy 

Islam teaches that acknowledging our faults and turning to Allah with sincere repentance is the path to having our misdeeds removed. This principle encourages us to admit our mistakes, both to people and to our Creator. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Tahreem (66), Verse 8: 

‘ O you people, who are believers, seek repentance from your Sustainer with sincere contrition; perhaps your Sustainer shall absolve you from your sins; and admit you into the Gardens (of Paradise) underneath which flow rivers…’ 

The Best Who Sin are Those Who Repent 

The prophetic tradition reminds us that making mistakes is a part of being human. True excellence lies not in being flawless, but in having the humility and strength to repent and seek to do better. 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, 4251, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Every son of Adam sins, and the best of those who sin are those who repent.’ 

Admitting Mistakes is a Strength 

When your child learns that admitting mistakes is a sign of strength, not weakness, they begin to see honesty as a source of personal dignity. This not only builds trust within the family but also instils a lifelong habit of accountability, both to other people and to Allah.