Parenting Perspective 

Children tend to respond better when behavioural guidance is connected to important values, rather than simply following rules. Linking anger management to Islamic values allows individuals to see their emotions as part of a broader spiritual path, rather than something to conceal or fear. Anger is a natural emotion; the key lies in how it is managed. 

Ground values in accessible language 

• Avoid vague generalisations and offer clear, values-based examples 

• Say: In Islam, we learn that those who are truly strong manage their anger, rather than those who raise their voices the most 

• Use relatable stories or examples to show decision-making in moments of anger 

• Connect action with intention: When you managed to calm yourself, that demonstrated true Taqwa 

• Ask guiding questions: How would a kind person act in this situation? 

• Acknowledge all moments of self-restraint, no matter how small 

This approach strengthens the sense of responsibility before Allah Almighty and deepens moral awareness. When children see emotional growth as part of their faith journey, they are more likely to uphold values like compassion, fairness, and reflection. 

Spiritual Insight 

Allah Almighty states in Surah Aalai Imran (3), Verse 134: 

‘Those (the believers are the ones) that spend (in the way of Allah Almighty) in times of abundance and hardship; they suppress their anger; and are forgiving to people; and Allah (Almighty) loves those who are benevolent. ‘

This verse affirms that emotional restraint is not only a personal strength but a spiritually elevated act, deeply loved by Allah Almighty. 

The Holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ taught the same principle. It is narrated in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6114: 

‘The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the one who controls himself while in anger. ‘

Use this lesson to redefine strength for your child. Say: Allah Almighty sees your strength when you pause and breathe, not when you shout. 

Offer them a prayer to internalise: 

O Allah, help me speak with peace and hold back my anger for Your sake. 

In this way, anger becomes not a source of shame, but a training ground for Taqwa, grace, and lasting inner strength.