Parenting Perspective 

It is common for children to do chores quickly and leave them incomplete or untidy. If parents respond only with anger, the child may associate chores with failure or shame rather than growth. A better way is to set a consistent routine of correction and reset that allows children to learn without fear while still understanding that responsibility matters. 

Begin with Calm Feedback 

Instead of criticising harshly, calmly point out what was missed: ‘The cups are still sticky, let us try washing them again.’ This approach separates the child’s identity from the quality of the task and makes the correction feel safe. 

Allow a Do-Over 

Invite your child to repeat the chore properly. Frame it as a chance to improve rather than a punishment: ‘Have another go, I know you can make it shine this time.’ This encourages resilience and effort instead of avoidance. 

Close with Encouragement 

Once the task is completed properly, offer praise: ‘That looks much better, thank you for sticking with it.’ This shows the child that effort is noticed and valued, turning the experience into a learning moment instead of a lingering disappointment. 

Reset Fully 

After the do-over, drop the issue and move on. This models forgiveness and reassures the child that one mistake does not define them. Over time, this builds a sense of safety and motivates them to take ownership of their chores more sincerely. 

This routine teaches that while quality and responsibility are important, mistakes are a normal part of learning. Children begin to see chores as opportunities to grow in patience and consistency, not as traps for criticism. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam encourages us to aim for excellence but also places immense value on forgiveness and new beginnings. Parents can reflect this balance by showing children that chores must be done properly but mistakes can be corrected with kindness. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Zumar (39), Verses 53: 

‘Say (O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ): “O my servants, those of you who have transgressed against yourselves (by committing sin); do not lose hope in the mercy of Allah (Almighty); indeed, Allah (Almighty) shall forgive the entirety of your sins; indeed, He is the Most Forgiving and the Most Merciful”.’ 

This reminds us that even when we fall short, Allah Almighty opens the door to renewal. Children need to feel this same mercy at home, that mistakes can be reset without despair. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 2499, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Every son of Adam commits sins, and the best of those who commit sins are those who repent.’ 

This teaches us that being human means making mistakes, but true strength lies in correcting and trying again. 

By weaving forgiveness into daily chores, parents nurture both responsibility and compassion. Children learn that accountability and mercy go hand in hand, shaping them into adults who value excellence yet remain gentle with themselves and others.