Parenting Perspective 

Break it Down into Small Steps 

Learning to dress themselves is a big step towards independence for any child, but it can be extra challenging for those with special educational needs (SEN) or motor delays. Buttons, zips, and the feel of certain fabrics can all make dressing feel overwhelming. The key is to break the process down into small, gentle steps and celebrate every bit of progress. 

Choose Easy-to-Manage Clothes 

Start by choosing clothes that are easy to manage. Elastic waistbands, loose t-shirts, and slip-on shoes can help build confidence. Avoid fiddly fastenings until your child is ready. Lay clothes out in the order they go on; some families use visual charts or simple dressing cards to show ‘first pants, then t-shirt.’ 

Teach One Skill at a Time 

Teach one skill at a time. For example, you can practise putting on socks until they master it, then move on to trousers. Show them slowly or use a mirror so they can copy your actions. For some children, practising with dolls or stuffed toys makes it feel more like play. 

Offer Choices, Praise, and Patience 

Offer choices when possible: ‘Do you want the blue shirt or the red one?’ This helps your child feel in control. Praise their small efforts: ‘You pulled your t-shirt over your head! Amazing!’ Stay calm if they get it wrong or put clothes on backwards, as it is all part of learning. Some children dislike certain fabrics or tight clothes because of sensory sensitivities. Notice what feels comfortable for your child and adapt where you can. Be patient; mornings can be rushed, so practise dressing at calmer times, like before bath time or bed. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam honours self-care and taking responsibility for our own wellbeing. Helping your child learn to dress is part of nurturing their dignity. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verse 286: 

‘Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear…‘

This Ayah reminds us that small steps are enough; Allah Almighty does not expect perfection overnight. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ taught his companions to do things for themselves where possible, but always with kindness and understanding. It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 1828, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Allah is not kind to him who is not kind to people.‘

This Hadith Shareef reminds us that teaching our children patiently is an act of mercy and worship. 

Make a gentle Dua: ‘O Allah Almighty, help my child grow in independence and confidence.’ Remind them that every small success, even putting on one sock, is seen and rewarded by Allah Almighty. 

With your patient guidance, small daily practice, and trust in Allah Almighty’s mercy, your child will, InshaAllah, feel proud of what they can do, one button, zip, and shirt at a time.