Parenting Perspective 

Set Gentle but Clear Boundaries 

When well-meaning relatives make unhelpful remarks about your child’s speech, it can hurt both your child’s confidence and your own sense of calm. Children often remember careless comments, especially if they feel teased or compared. The best way to protect your child is to stay calm and to set gentle but clear boundaries. If someone says, ‘Why does he still talk like that?’ you can respond kindly but firmly: ‘We are working on it with love and patience, and he is doing very well, Alhamdulillah.’ 

It is important to avoid arguing in front of your child. Later, you can reassure your child privately that every child grows at their own pace and that you are proud of their effort. You can also teach your child simple ways to respond if they feel shy, such as smiling or staying quiet instead of feeling forced to explain themselves. Surround your child with encouraging voices, books, positive friends, and family members who praise their progress. When your child knows you are their safe space, outside comments lose their sting, and their confidence can grow strong. 

Spiritual Insight 

Protect Each Other’s Feelings 

Islam teaches us to guard our words and protect the feelings of others, especially children. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 11: 

‘Those of you who are believers, do not let a nation ridicule another nation, as perhaps it may be that they are better than them….’ 

This verse reminds us that mocking or careless words can wound the heart, and that every person deserves respect for who they are and how they grow. 

The Importance of Gentleness 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 1828, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Allah is not kind to him who is not kind to people.’ 

This Hadith Shareef shows that gentleness in our words and actions is part of our faith. If family comments hurt, use it as an opportunity to teach your child that their worth is not in how fast they learn but in how sincerely they try. Make Dua that Allah Almighty protects their heart from shame and fills it with courage. Guide your child to see that kind words build bridges while harsh words can break them.