Parenting Perspective 

It can be tempting to compare your child’s speech with siblings, cousins, or classmates, but comparisons often do more harm than good. Every child has their own pace, personality, and learning style. When children hear they are behind or not as good as someone else, it can create feelings of shame and reluctance to try. Instead of saying, ‘Look how well your cousin speaks,’ focus on your child’s unique progress. Notice small improvements and praise them sincerely: ‘I love how you tried that new word today.’ Keep a simple record of their milestones if it helps you see growth over time. Celebrate what makes your child special, their curiosity, their kindness, their effort, not just their speech skills. If they compare themselves to others, remind them that everyone has strengths in different areas and that mistakes are part of learning. When you hold back from comparing, you protect your child’s confidence and make your home a safe place where they can practise and grow without fear of judgement. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us that each person is created uniquely by Allah Almighty, with gifts and challenges designed for their path. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 13: ‘O mankind, indeed, We (Allah Almighty) have created you all from one man and one woman; and placed you amongst various nations and tribes for your introduction to each other; indeed, the best of you in the judgement of Allah (Almighty) is the one who is most virtuous….’ This verse reminds us that our worth is not measured by how quickly we speak or learn but by our sincerity and good character. 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 3671, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: ‘Be kind to children and perfect in your upbringing of them.’ This Hadith Shareef guides us to nurture our children with mercy, not pressure. Comparing your child to others can harm their spirit but encouraging them with gentle words builds trust and self-worth. Make Dua that Allah Almighty grants your child confidence and ease in their speech. Teach them that what matters most is speaking truthfully and kindly. When your child feels seen and valued for who they are, they learn to trust their own voice, and that voice becomes a blessing for them and those around them, InshaAllah.