Parenting Perspective 

Understand the Reasons 

If your child shouts rude words around strangers, it is important to address the situation with understanding, patience, and clear guidance. You can start by calmly asking your child why they used those words and help them to understand why it is not acceptable to speak rudely, especially around others. For example, you might say, ‘I noticed you shouted those words around people we do not know. Can you tell me why you said that?’ This gives your child a chance to explain their actions and to reflect on what led to the behaviour. 

Explain the Impact 

Once you have understood the context, calmly explain to your child that shouting rude words can hurt others and cause discomfort, particularly in public settings. You can say, ‘When you use rude words around strangers, it can make them feel uncomfortable and upset. It is important to always speak kindly, even when we are upset.’ Help your child to understand the impact of their words on others and teach them that respect is a fundamental part of any social interaction. 

Guide Them to Express Themselves Appropriately 

It is also essential to guide your child on how to express themselves appropriately. If they are feeling upset or frustrated, teach them to use words that express their feelings without being hurtful. For example, instead of shouting rude words, you can encourage them to say, ‘I am really upset,’ or ‘I do not like what just happened.’ Praise your child when they express themselves calmly and respectfully, as this reinforces that good communication leads to better interactions. 

Set clear expectations for behaviour in public and be consistent in reinforcing these rules. If your child continues to shout rude words, you should implement appropriate consequences, such as a timeout or a restriction on privileges. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, speaking with respect and avoiding hurtful language is highly emphasised. Allah Almighty teaches us in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 11: 

‘Those of you who are believers, do not let a nation ridicule another nation, as perhaps it may be that they are better than them….’ 

This verse encourages us to avoid mocking or speaking rudely to others, recognising the value of treating everyone with respect and dignity. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ also placed great emphasis on kindness and good speech. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 3587, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘The best of you are those who are the best to their families.’ 

This Hadith teaches us that our speech should be kind and respectful, and that the way we speak to others reflects our inner character. By guiding your child to avoid shouting rude words, you are helping them to align their behaviour with the teachings of Islam, promoting respect and good manners in all their interactions.