Parenting Perspective 

Monitor, Model, and Correct Gently 

Many parents feel frustrated when their young child suddenly picks up slang or rude phrases from cartoons or online videos. Children at this age are like little mirrors; they absorb what they hear without understanding when certain words are inappropriate. The first step is to monitor what they watch. Choose shows with clean, simple language and positive messages, and watch with them when possible so you can catch any new words early. 

If your child repeats something unsuitable, it is important to stay calm. Overreacting can make the word feel powerful and more tempting to repeat. Instead, explain gently that certain words are unkind or disrespectful and do not belong in your family’s speech. You can then offer better words for them to use to express themselves. Praise them when they use kind and polite language correctly. 

Limit unsupervised screen time and balance it with plenty of real conversations, storytelling, and play, where they can practise good language habits. Children learn speech best from the words they hear spoken with love and respect around them every day. 

Spiritual Insight 

Words That Uplift, Not Harm 

Speech is a powerful gift and a great responsibility in Islam. Allah Almighty calls us to use words that uplift, not harm. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 11: 

‘Those of you who are believers, do not let a nation ridicule another nation, as perhaps it may be that they are better than them….’ 

This verse reminds us that words can hurt, and that mocking or rude language does not please Allah Almighty. Teaching children to choose good words is part of nurturing their character. 

Perfecting Their Upbringing 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 3671, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Be kind to children and perfect in your upbringing of them.’ 

This Hadith Shareef shows that parents have a duty to guide their children’s speech with patience and wisdom. When a child uses inappropriate slang, see it as an opportunity to build their understanding and self-control. You can replace the slang with beautiful phrases like ‘Alhamdulillah’, ‘SubhanAllah’, or simple expressions of kindness. Keep praying for your child’s heart to love good speech. Remember, your own tone and words shape their language most of all.