Parenting Perspective 

Encourage Safe and Respectful Play 

Supporting your daughter if she wants to play rough games involves encouraging her to express herself freely while ensuring that her safety and well-being are a priority. You can start by explaining that enjoying physical activities is perfectly fine as long as they are safe and respectful. For example, you could say, ‘It is great that you enjoy active play! Just remember, we need to make sure that everyone is safe and having fun. It is important to play with respect for others.’ 

Channel Her Energy into Sports 

Encourage her to channel her energy into sports or other activities where she can be physically active while also learning discipline and teamwork. You can introduce her to games like football, martial arts, or other non-violent competitive sports that align with her interests. ‘Sports like football can help you to have fun, to get stronger, and to learn new skills. Plus, it is a great way to work as a team.’ 

Teach Boundaries 

While you are supporting her interests, you should also teach her the importance of playing in a way that respects the boundaries of others. Teach her that rough play should never cross into aggression or cause harm, and that it is important to understand the difference between friendly competition and disrespectful behaviour. 

Praise Her Strength and Confidence 

Finally, it is important to praise her for her physicality and her confidence, as this will help her to develop a positive self-image. ‘I love how strong and confident you are when you are playing these games. You have so much energy, and it is great to see you use it in such a positive way.’ 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, physical activity and strength are considered to be positive traits, as long as they are used within the boundaries of good conduct. Allah Almighty says in the noble Quran at Surah Al Mulk (67), Verse 15: 

‘It is He who has made for you the Earth subservient (to your needs); so, walk (freely) amongst its marvels; and eat of the nourishment He has provided for you….’ 

This verse teaches that physical strength and activity are a part of Allah’s blessings, and that we should use them for positive purposes that can benefit ourselves and others. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ also encouraged physical strength and activity, especially in the context of sports and competition. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 3587, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘The best of you are those who are the best to their families.’ 

This Hadith demonstrates that engaging in physical activities, while also maintaining kindness and respect, aligns with the Islamic values of responsibility, strength, and self-control.