Parenting Perspective 

Celebrate Their Unique Qualities 

Teaching your children to value each other’s strengths involves highlighting and celebrating the unique qualities that each child brings to the family dynamic. You can start by emphasising that everyone has different talents, and that these talents are all important. You might say, ‘Each of you has something special about you, and that is what makes our family unique. Let us celebrate each other’s strengths and help each other to grow.’ 

Foster a Teamwork Environment 

It is a good idea to foster an environment of teamwork where your children are encouraged to support and help each other to develop their strengths. For example, ‘Why do not you help your sister with her maths homework, and she can help you with your drawing? You both have great skills, and working together will help you both to grow.’ 

Model Appreciation 

You can model this behaviour yourself by valuing and celebrating the different strengths you observe in your children. For instance, ‘I see how hard you have worked on this project, and I can tell you put in a lot of effort. It is so important to recognise and to be proud of what each of you does well.’ 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, every individual’s unique quality and ability are seen as a gift from Allah. Allah Almighty says in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 13: 

‘O mankind, indeed, We (Allah Almighty) have created you all from one man and one woman; and placed you amongst various nations and tribes for your introduction to each other; indeed, the best of you in the judgement of Allah (Almighty) is the one who is most virtuous; indeed, Allah (Almighty) is the Omniscient, the all Cognisant.’ 

This verse reminds us that our value is not based on our gender or our physical traits, but on our character and our righteousness. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ also emphasised the importance of supporting one another and of appreciating the unique qualities of each person. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 3587, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘The best of you are those who are the best to their families.’ 

This Hadith highlights that by teaching your children to value each other’s strengths and to support one another, you are helping them to embody the Islamic principles of respect, fairness, and cooperation.