Parenting Perspective 

Understand and Encourage, Do Not Force 

It is common for children to feel shy or reluctant to speak their home language in public, especially if they worry about standing out or being misunderstood. It is important to stay calm and avoid turning it into an argument, as pressure can make them even more resistant. Instead, try to understand why they feel uncomfortable. Is it embarrassment? A fear of being teased? Or do they simply feel more confident using the language they speak at school? 

Talk about these feelings gently and remind your child that their home language is a special part of who they are. You can keep the language strong at home through everyday conversations, stories, and family traditions. Give your child chances to use it outside in natural ways, like greeting relatives, helping to translate for their grandparents, or talking to community friends who share your language. Praise every small effort without expecting perfection. Over time, your calm encouragement will help your child to feel proud, not shy, about speaking their home language. 

Spiritual Insight 

A Sign of Allah’s Mercy 

Islam honours our roots, our family ties, and the different ways we express ourselves. Our languages are part of the blessings Allah Almighty gives us to connect with others and to share His signs. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Rome (30), Verse 22: 

‘And amongst His Signs (of the infinite truth) are that He (Allah Almighty) created the layers of trans-universal existence and the Earth; and (designed) diversity of your languages and your (skin) colours; indeed, in this there are (logical and rational) Signs for those who are imbued with knowledge.’ 

This verse reminds your child that their language is not a burden but a sign of Allah Almighty’s mercy and wisdom. 

Make it Easy 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ respected every person’s way of speaking and taught his companions to treat people’s words with gentleness. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6125, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Make things easy and do not make things difficult.’ 

When you respond to your child’s reluctance with patience and kindness, you are following this, Sunnah. Reassure your child that there is no shame in using their home language. Make Dua that Allah Almighty opens their heart to feel confident in who they are and the words they carry.