What’s a child-friendly way to explain why certain apps or games are not allowed? 

Parenting Perspective 

When setting boundaries around specific content, the goal is to explain your reasoning in a way that feels protective, not punitive. A calm, clear, and loving explanation can make all the difference. 

Keep the Language Simple and Relatable 

Avoid using complicated or abstract terms. Instead, use simple comparisons that connect to their world. You could say, ‘Just like some foods are tasty but are not healthy for our bodies, some games might look fun but are not healthy for our minds or our hearts.’ This helps them to see the rule as an act of care. 

Focus on Safety and Well-being 

Explain that your main job is to keep them safe. You could say, ‘Some games allow strangers to talk to you, and we have to be very careful with that,’ or ‘This game has ideas in it that do not match our family’s values.’ Always end by reassuring them that your choices are for their protection and well-being. 

Offer Positive Alternatives 

Instead of just leaving the conversation with a ‘no,’ immediately guide them towards a positive ‘yes.’ Suggesting a safe and fun alternative that you can perhaps do together turns a moment of restriction into an opportunity for connection. 

By framing the limit in this way, you help your child feel protected, not punished. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam places a profound responsibility on parents to protect their families from harm, both physical and spiritual, and to guide them towards what is beneficial for their character and faith. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah At Tahrim (66), Verse 6: 

‘O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones…’ 

This reminds us that our duty of care includes safeguarding our loved ones from influences that could harm their faith, well-being, or character. 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 1829, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Each of you is a shepherd, and each of you is responsible for his flock.’ 

This highlights the immense trust and responsibility parents have in making decisions that ensure their children’s safety and guide their moral compass. By explaining limits in a loving way, we fulfil this duty while teaching them that boundaries are an act of care.