What small comfort rituals can replace the role of tech after stressful moments? 

Parenting Perspective 

When a child turns to technology after a stressful event, it is often because a device offers an immediate sense of distraction and control. You can replace this habit by introducing short, repeatable comfort rituals that help them self-soothe in healthier ways while still meeting their need for relief. 

Establish a Physical Comfort Cue 

Simple acts of physical comfort can provide the same sense of security a child might seek from a device. You could offer a warm drink, wrap them in a soft blanket, or simply share a quiet hug. These physical cues signal safety and care. 

Introduce Quick Calming Activities 

Keep a small set of simple, hands-on activities ready for these moments. This might include colouring, drawing, building with blocks, listening to a short story, or doing a simple puzzle together. These activities help to focus the mind and release tension. 

Pair Comfort with Gentle Connection 

Use the ritual as a moment for gentle connection. You do not need a deep discussion; you can simply share a light-hearted story, talk about something neutral and pleasant, or recite a short Surah together. This helps to shift their emotional state while reinforcing your bond. 

Over time, these small rituals can become a natural ‘reset button’ for your child after a stressful experience. They offer the same sense of relief that technology provides, but do so without encouraging an over-reliance on screens. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, we are encouraged to find comfort through good actions, remembrance of Allah, and family closeness, as these are pathways to peace in the heart. Moments of stress can become valuable opportunities to strengthen these habits. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Ra’ad (13), Verse 28: 

‘ Indeed, it is only with the remembrance of Allah (Almighty) that one can (and does) find peace of mind and heart...’ 

This reminds us that true and lasting comfort comes from turning our hearts towards Allah Almighty. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 3377, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Shall I not tell you of the best of your deeds, the purest of them with your Sovereign, the highest of them in your ranks remembering Allah Almighty.’ 

This teaches us that building small, consistent moments of remembrance into daily life can become a profound source of calm and strength. 

By replacing the habit of post-stress technology use with small, comforting rituals rooted in presence, connection, and spiritual remembrance, you help your child learn that true, lasting peace is found in relationships and faith, not just in digital escape.