What should parents do if children see them using phones as an emotional escape? 

Parenting Perspective 

Acknowledge the Example You Are Setting 

Children are perceptive and will notice if a parent consistently reaches for their phone during moments of stress or boredom. If this pattern is not addressed, it can normalise the idea that devices are the main tool for managing emotions. The first step for a parent is to acknowledge this behaviour openly: ‘I realise that I sometimes reach for my phone when I feel overwhelmed, but I want to find better ways to handle my feelings.’ This honesty clears up confusion and shows that learning to manage emotions is a lifelong journey. 

Model Healthier Coping Strategies 

Instead of reaching for a device, parents can actively model healthier coping strategies. This could include making du’a, going for a short walk, reading the Quran, or simply sitting in quiet reflection. Replacing a digital escape with these mindful practices teaches children that difficult emotions can be processed without the need for constant distraction. When children see these alternatives in action, they learn that technology should be a tool, not an emotional crutch. 

Turn It into a Teachable Moment 

Rather than feeling embarrassed, a parent can frame the moment as a valuable lesson for the whole family: ‘It is easy to use a phone to escape our feelings, but it is much better to face them. Why do not we try something else together?’ Involving children in an alternative, such as praying two rak’at or simply talking, transforms a moment of weakness into an opportunity for shared growth. 

Spiritual Insight 

The Source of True Tranquillity 

Islamic teachings remind us that true peace and emotional assurance are found not in worldly distractions, but in the remembrance of our Creator. This is the ultimate refuge from the anxieties of life. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Ra’ad (13), Verse 28: 

‘…Indeed, it is only with the remembrance of Allah (Almighty) that one can (and does) find peace of mind and heart.’ 

Finding Relief in Meaningful Action 

The prophetic tradition encourages us to find comfort and relief through positive, meaningful actions that benefit ourselves and others. Turning to Allah and engaging in acts of kindness are far more powerful than seeking refuge in empty distractions. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, 6512, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Whosoever relieves a believer from one of the hardships of this world, Allah will relieve him from one of the hardships of the Day of Resurrection.’ 

Transforming Weakness into a Lesson 

By honestly addressing their own digital escape habits, modelling healthier responses, and grounding their actions in faith, parents can transform a personal weakness into a powerful lesson. This teaches children that while feeling overwhelmed is a normal part of life, the most reliable path to comfort is found in connecting with Allah Almighty and developing healthy emotional practices.