Parenting Perspective 

Talk to Your Child First 

If your child’s teacher is limiting them because of their gender, it is essential to address the situation calmly and respectfully, ensuring that your child understands the value of equality while also reinforcing their confidence. You can start by talking to your child to understand what has happened and how they feel about it. You might say, ‘I am sorry you feel like you were treated unfairly. You should have the same opportunities as every other student, regardless of whether you are a boy or a girl.’ 

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Approach the Teacher Collaboratively 

After you have discussed it with your child, you should approach the teacher with a positive and constructive attitude. Frame the conversation in a way that expresses your desire to work together for your child’s best interest. You could say, ‘I have noticed that my child’s participation in certain activities seems to be limited because of their gender. I would appreciate it if we could explore ways to ensure equal opportunities for all students.’ 

Focus on a Balanced Environment 

Focus on the teacher’s role in providing a balanced and supportive learning environment for every student. You can reinforce that both boys and girls have equal potential and should be encouraged to explore a wide range of subjects and activities. You could ask, ‘Can we discuss how we can work together to provide a more balanced approach for all students?’ Finally, it is important to support your child at home by reminding them that their worth and abilities are not defined by their gender. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, the value of both boys and girls is equal in the eyes of Allah. Allah Almighty says in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 13: 

‘O mankind, indeed, We (Allah Almighty) have created you all from one man and one woman; and placed you amongst various nations and tribes for your introduction to each other; indeed, the best of you in the judgement of Allah (Almighty) is the one who is most virtuous; indeed, Allah (Almighty) is the Omniscient, the all Cognisant.’ 

This verse reminds us that our worth is determined by our character and our actions, not by our gender. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ also demonstrated that both men and women are equally capable of achieving great things. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 3587, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘The best of you are those who are the best to their families.’ 

This Hadith emphasises that both men and women are equal in their capacity to contribute positively to society and to their family. By addressing any gender limitations in your child’s education, you are helping them to grow in line with these Islamic principles of fairness, respect, and equality.