What should I do if my child wants to stay in regular school and does not want to be home schooled? 

Parenting Perspective 

Honour Their Feelings and Listen Patiently 

If your child strongly objects to leaving their current school, it is so important to honour their feelings with patience and respect. Older children especially may fear losing friends, daily routines, or the small freedoms they enjoy at school. Many worry that home-schooling will be lonely, boring, or too strict. Begin by truly listening, let your child share what they love about school, whether it is certain friends, favourite teachers, or the sense of independence. Praise the things they are doing well right now and gently explain why you feel a change could help them grow. 

Involve Them in the Research and Planning 

If they remain uncertain, involve them in the research. Visit local home-schooling groups together, try a short project at home, or speak with families who have already made the transition. This shows your child that their voice matters and that you are not making this choice behind their back. Strategise together how to protect their social life, reassure them that friendships and hobbies do not have to end just because they leave the classroom. Be open about how you can plan meetups, clubs, or co-ops to keep them connected. Remember, any big change feels frightening to a child. Your calm reassurance and willingness to listen and adapt will help them see that home-schooling is not about losing what they love but about building a way of learning that truly suits who they are, InshaAllah. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam honours the trust between parents and children, reminding us to nurture their unique personalities with mercy and wisdom. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujurat (49), Verse 13: 

‘O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another… ‘

This Ayah highlights the importance of human connection and community. If your child values their friendships and social ties, try to protect that aspect within your home-school plan. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 2138, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Every child is born upon the Fitrah… ‘

Your child’s natural needs, including the desire for company and belonging, are not to be crushed for the sake of rigid plans. Instead, they are to be guided lovingly. Approach your child’s hesitation with gentle reassurance, Dua, and patience. Talk openly about how you will keep their friendships alive, involve them in youth activities, and build strong family bonds at home. Keep your intention sincere: you are choosing what nurtures their heart, mind, and Iman. Trust that Allah Almighty sees your effort and will ease the path that brings goodness to your family’s faith and future.