Parenting Perspective 

Children often carry unspoken worries into bed, and these can stir restlessness or even nightmares. A gentle check before sleep helps clear their minds without dragging bedtime into a long counselling session. The key is to use short, open-ended phrases that make it easy for them to share if something is troubling them, while still keeping the atmosphere calm and secure. 

Keep Phrases Simple and Open 

Instead of “What is wrong?”, which can feel heavy, try softer phrases such as: 

• “Anything on your mind before we rest?” 

• “One small thing you would like me to know?” 

• “Do you need a hug or a prayer tonight?” 

Normalise Sharing Without Pressure 

Sometimes children will say “nothing.” That is fine. By asking gently every night, you build trust. Over time, they learn that worries can be shared without judgment or interrogation. 

Offer Calm Closure 

If a child does share, respond briefly and reassuringly: “I hear you, and we can talk more tomorrow. Tonight, you can rest knowing Allah is watching over you.” This keeps bedtime peaceful rather than prolonging heavy discussions. 

Anchor With Consistency 

Make the question part of the nightly rhythm, like brushing teeth. Regularity reassures children that space for their feelings is always available. 

This way, your child learns that they never have to go to sleep carrying burdens alone. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam encourages believers to end the day with remembrance and trust in Allah Almighty. Creating a small moment before sleep for children to release their worries reflects this Sunnah of ending the day in calm reliance on Him. 

Guidance from the Noble Quran 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Ar Ra’ad (13), Verses 28: 

‘…Indeed, it is only with the remembrance of Allah (Almighty) that one can (and does) find peace of mind and heart.’ 

This reminds us that mentioning Allah’s name and turning to Him brings peace to troubled hearts, especially before sleep. 

Teaching from the Hadith 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6311, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘When you go to bed, say: “In Your name, O Allah, I live and die.”’ 

This teaches us that entrusting oneself to Allah Almighty before sleep is a shield of comfort and security. 

By using gentle check phrases and linking the night’s end with remembrance of Allah Almighty, you show your child that their worries matter, but they are never alone. They rest with both parental reassurance and divine protection, allowing sleep to arrive with peace.