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What kind of words help my child feel deeply loved and emotionally secure?

Parenting Perspective

Say something that affirms who they are rather than just what they accomplish, such as ‘I love how thoughtful you are,’ ‘You are a gift to our family,’ or ‘You already have my love; you do not need to earn it.’ Steer clear of love that is correlated with achievement. Frequently say ‘I love you,’ even while scolding behaviour. Emotional grounding is strengthened by words that reassure permanency, such as ‘I am here for you always.’ Long after they are said, children continue to repeat these affirmations in their minds.

Spiritual Insight

Allah Almighty’s words to His servants are full of reassurance. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Duha (93), Verses 3-5: ‘Your Sustainer has never left (communication with) you, nor can ever this (relationship) be stale. And your forthcoming (time) shall be even better than your previous (experience).’ This divine tone teaches us to speak hope and comfort. It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 2392, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ showed love and expressed it openly. He said, ‘When one of you has love for his brother, he should inform him that he loves him.’ Mercy-based language fosters enduring faith in love.  

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