Parenting Perspective 

Frame Games as an Opportunity for Character 

Children often see sports only in terms of winning or losing. An Islamically mindful approach reframes these moments as opportunities to build character. Parents can remind their children that games are for fun and teamwork, not just for proving who is best. When they win, encourage gratitude: ‘Alhamdulillah, you played well because Allah gave you strength.’ When they lose, guide them towards patience and resilience. This helps to connect the experience of playing to higher, character-building values. 

Encourage and Praise Good Sportsmanship 

It is important to teach that good sportsmanship is more important than the score. Shaking hands with an opponent or congratulating the winner are signs of a strong character. Parents should praise these behaviours even more enthusiastically than they praise a victory. By consistently linking winning to gratitude and losing to resilience, you help your child to understand that both outcomes are valuable opportunities for personal growth. 

Spiritual Insight 

The Best Competition is in Good Deeds 

Islam encourages us to compete, but it directs that competitive spirit towards righteousness. The Quran tells us to “race to all that is good,” reminding us that the most meaningful victory is in striving to excel in kindness, worship, and good character. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Maaidah (5), Verse 48: 

‘…So, endeavour to precede one another in matters of benevolent (actions), as you will all return to Allah (Almighty), then He (Allah Almighty) shall inform you (the reality of everything) in which you used to differ.’ 

The Only Praiseworthy Competition 

The prophetic tradition clarifies that the only areas in which competition is truly praiseworthy are in seeking and sharing beneficial knowledge and in spending wealth for the sake of Allah. This channels our worldly efforts towards deeds with heavenly rewards. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, 7141, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘There is no envy except in two: a man whom Allah has given wealth and he spends it in the right way, and a man whom Allah has given wisdom and he acts according to it and teaches it.’ 

Humility in Victory, Patience in Loss 

By framing games and sports within this spiritual perspective, you can show your child that winning and losing are temporary, but the way they behave has lasting value. This approach helps to instil humility in victory and patience in loss, fostering a deep understanding that every action can be a step towards pleasing Allah.