What can I say when my child asks why grandparents enjoy simple evening walks? 

Parenting Perspective 

When a child asks why grandparents enjoy simple evening walks, the emotional core is often confusion because they equate enjoyment with high energy or immediate novelty. They see walking as a means to an end, while their grandparents view it as an end in itself. The first step is to validate the child’s perspective: ‘That’s a thoughtful question. Grandparents grew up in a different time, and they see walking in a different way than we do now.’ This acknowledges the difference while opening the door to a gentle, respectful explanation. 

Connect Slowness to Noticing 

Explain that the simplicity of the walk is actually the reward. Grandparents walk slowly not because they cannot walk fast, but because they choose to notice more. 

• Reframing the Activity: You can say, ‘For us, a walk is about going somewhere. For them, the walk is the place. They are looking for the small things we rush past: the scent of a flower, the sound of the wind, or the way the light changes.’ 

• Micro-action: Next time you walk with a grandparent, encourage your child to ask them directly: ‘Grandma/Grandpa, what is the smallest thing you noticed on our walk that made you happy?’ This directly links their slow pace to profound contentment and appreciation for details. 

Link the Walk to Reflection and Memory 

Explain that the walk is a time for quiet internal reflection, which is important for older generations. The rhythmic, steady motion of walking helps their minds process memories and find peace. 

• Parent Script: ‘When they walk, they are also walking back through their memories. The calm, quiet rhythm helps them think, pray, and feel thankful for everything that has happened in their life. It’s a way for them to find inner peace and quiet enjoyment that screens and noise cannot give.’ 

• Shared Presence: Emphasise that simply being together, without needing constant conversation or entertainment, is a profound expression of love for them. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches that slowing down and reflecting on life and creation is an essential act of worship that brings about spiritual tranquility. The simple walk becomes an arena for Dhikr (remembrance of Allah Almighty) and Tafakkur (contemplation). 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran in Surah Luqman (31), Verse 19: 

‘“And be modest in your attitude and lower your voice (in dealing with people); as indeed, the harshest of all sounds, is the noise of the donkeys”.’ 

This verse reminds us that gentleness and moderation in one’s pace (physically and spiritually) are virtues. Grandparents often embody this moderation by finding peace in a deliberate, unhurried pace. 

It is recorded in Shuab Al Iman Al Bayhaqi, Hadith 10250, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Take benefit of five before five: your youth before your old age, your health before your sickness, your wealth before your poverty, your free time before your preoccupation, and your life before your death.‘ 

For grandparents, the simple evening walk is a mindful way to enjoy their health and free time while reflecting on life’s blessings. By guiding your child to see the walk through this lens—as a time for gratitude, reflection, and quiet contentment—you foster a deep respect for their wisdom and their connection to the natural rhythm of life.