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What can I do when my child keeps talking over me and I feel my anger rising before I even realise it?

Parenting Perspective 

When a child interrupts their parent, it frequently causes the parent to feel dismissed or unheard, particularly if the parent is already under a lot of stress. However, the majority of young children interrupt because they are impetuous and emotionally motivated rather than to question authority. They are still learning how to control themselves. Awareness is your first anchor when you feel your anger building. Instead of raising your voice, try pausing, taking a deep breath, and lowering it. Boundaries are reinforced without increasing tension by using a straightforward, composed script such as I will listen to you, but I need you to wait until I finish speaking. If you need to cool off, take a moment to step back. The very listening skills you wish to teach are modelled by calm parenting in these situations.

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Spiritual Insight 

Responding with Humility 

In Islam, we are taught to uphold dignity in speech and restraint in moments of frustration. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Furqaan (25), Verse 63: 

And the true servants of the One Who is Most Beneficent are those who, wander around the Earth with humility; and when they are addressed by the ignorant people, they say: peace be unto you. “

If we are encouraged to respond gently even to ignorance, how much more mercy should we extend to our own children, who are still learning? 

The Prophetic Example of Gentle Speech 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6131, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ never interrupted or spoke harshly with anyone. When asked why he spoke gently to a man he had previously described in harsh terms, the Prophet ﷺexplained: 

The worse people, in the sight of Allah Almighty are those whom the people leave (undisturbed) to save themselves from their dirty language. 

Parenting as Spiritual Development 

This Hadith demonstrates how, despite being put to the test, the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ remained polite. Your decision to react calmly and firmly when your child interrupts you when you feel angry is not only smart parenting, but it also represents spiritual development. As you travel the path of self-control, humility, and prophetic kindness, you are also mentoring your child. 

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