What are some realistic screen limits I should follow myself if I want my child to listen to mine? 

Parenting Perspective 

Children are far more likely to respect boundaries when they see those same principles modelled consistently at home. If you want your child to follow certain screen rules, it is vital to live by a version of those rules yourself. This does not mean your limits must be identical, but it does mean showing a shared commitment to discipline and presence. 

Institute Device-Free Meals and Moments 

One of the most powerful examples you can set is to commit to putting your phone away completely during meals and dedicated family conversations. This creates a clear and visible statement that you value human connection over digital distraction in those sacred moments. It makes the dinner table a sanctuary for the family. 

Establish a Personal Evening Cut-Off Time 

Choose a realistic time each evening when you will stop all non-essential screen use, ideally at least an hour before you plan to sleep. Let your child see you put your phone on the charger and switch to a different wind-down activity, like reading a book or tidying up. This models healthy sleep hygiene and shows that everyone in the family benefits from disconnecting. 

Practise ‘Purpose-First’ Usage 

Before you unlock your device, get into the habit of asking yourself, ‘What do I need to do right now?’ This practice helps to prevent aimless, mindless scrolling and demonstrates to your child that technology should be used as an intentional tool, not a default habit. They will learn from you that picking up a device should have a clear purpose. 

The goal is not to prove that you are perfect, but to demonstrate that you, too, have boundaries and are committed to following them. Over time, this consistency helps your child to accept their own limits without feeling unfairly singled out. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches that leading by example is one of the most powerful and sincere forms of guidance. Our actions must align with the values we hope to instil in our children. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Saff (61), Verse 3: 

‘It is highly detested by Allah (Almighty) that you say (to others) that which you do not do (yourself)…’ 

This powerful verse reminds us that our words lose their weight and sincerity if our actions do not reflect them, especially when we are in a position of guiding others. 

It is recorded in Sahih al-Bukhari, Hadith 3559, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The best of you are the best among you in character.’ 

This teaches us that true excellence lies in our character, which is built through consistent, disciplined, and sincere habits. Integrity and good manners are the true foundation of our influence as parents. By setting and following your own realistic screen limits, you are not just enforcing rules; you are embodying a standard of self-control that your child can respect and, in time, emulate.