My spouse and I also default to devices over talking, how does that impact our child’s willingness to converse? 

Parenting Perspective 

When children regularly see their parents choosing devices over conversation, they absorb this pattern as normal. They learn that turning to a screen is the default way to spend time together, and silence becomes more common than interaction. Over time, a child’s willingness to share details from their day may decrease, not because they have nothing to say, but because the family atmosphere has shifted from engagement to simply coexisting in the same space. 

Model the Connection You Want to See 

This does not mean every moment needs to be filled with talk. Instead, it is about being intentional. By creating designated tech-free times, such as during dinner or on the way to school, you signal that connection is a priority. When your child observes you and your spouse putting phones down to listen to each other, they receive a powerful lesson on the value of relationships. These small but consistent actions teach them that conversation is not in competition with technology, but is the very heart of family life. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us that true excellence in character begins in the home, and the way we make space for our loved ones is a reflection of our faith. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Mujadilah (58), Verse 11: 

‘ O you who are believers, when it is said to you: “Make space for each other in the gatherings”, then try to accommodate each other; (and conversely) Allah (Almighty) shall accommodate you (with His mercy)…’ 

This verse teaches us to actively create space for others. In a family setting, this means putting away our digital distractions to make emotional and mental space for our loved ones, ensuring they feel included and valued. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1162, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The most complete of the believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are those who are best to their women.’ 

This beautiful Hadith links the perfection of faith to good character, which begins at home. The kindness and attention shown between spouses becomes the blueprint for the entire family’s communication, teaching children to value meaningful conversation.