I feel like my child is being raised by screens because we are so stretched. How can we reset this without falling apart? 

Parenting Perspective 

When life is overwhelming, it is easy for screens to become a substitute caregiver. Reclaiming your presence does not require a complete overhaul of your life, but rather small, intentional steps to restore connection. 

Start with Small, Realistic Changes 

Do not aim for a screen-free home overnight, as this will only add to your stress. Instead, choose one or two protected pockets of time each day to be screen-free. This could be the first twenty minutes after school or the time during dinner preparation. These small, consistent moments of connection are more powerful than you think. 

Create ‘Tech-Free’ Anchor Activities 

Establish a few simple, no-technology family rituals that your child can depend on. These become the emotional anchors in their day. It could be one screen-free meal together, a shared story before bed, or a family walk after dinner. These predictable routines quietly communicate that your connection is more important than any distraction. 

Address Your Own Overwhelm 

The guilt over screen time often stems from parental burnout. Be kind to yourself. Where possible, ask your spouse for support, simplify your commitments, and remember that your presence is about quality, not perfection. A small, intentional change made with a calm heart is better than a grand plan that leads to more stress. 

Involve Your Child in the Reset 

Frame this change as a positive team effort. You can say, ‘I have noticed we are all using screens a lot lately, and I miss our time together. Let us come up with some fun new family habits’. When you empower your child to be part of the solution, you are met with cooperation instead of resistance. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us that we are accountable for what we expose our children to and that our role as parents is a sacred trust. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Isra (17), Verse 36: 

‘And do not pursue that of which you have no knowledge. Indeed, the hearing, the sight and the heart, about all those [one] will be questioned…‘ 

This verse reminds us that what our children see and hear shapes their souls, and we will be asked about it. Gently reclaiming their senses from constant screen time is not about guilt; it is about fulfilling our responsibility to be mindful guardians of their inner world. 

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ defined the role of a parent as a guardian. 

It is recorded in Sahih al-Bukhari, 2409, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Every one of you is a guardian and is responsible for what is in his custody.‘ 

This hadith affirms your role not as a perfect entertainer, but as a loving guardian. If screens have become too dominant, it is never too late to gently and gradually reclaim your role as the primary source of connection and guidance in your child’s life. With small, sincere steps, you can restore a beautiful balance to your home.