How to Trust in Dua While Practically Lightening Your Load 

Parenting Perspective 

Combine Spiritual Reliance With Practical Action 

Feeling overwhelmed even after making Dua can leave you questioning whether you are doing something wrong, but in reality, it shows you are carrying more than one person reasonably can. Trusting Allah does not mean ignoring the need for practical adjustments. It means combining spiritual reliance with active steps that protect your energy and your children’s well-being. 

Simplify and Share Your Responsibilities 

Start by identifying which tasks truly need your presence and which can be simplified, delayed, or shared. Often, parents not only perform physical duties such as teaching, outings, and playing, but they also carry the mental responsibility of remembering everything. Instead of silently managing it all, bring your spouse or older children into the process by clearly assigning responsibilities. This transforms ‘helping’ into shared ownership. 

Manage Expectations to Protect Your Presence 

It is also important to manage expectations. Your children do not need a perfect home, but they do need a mother who can connect with them warmly. If your day feels heavy, lowering certain standards, such as simplifying meals or reducing after-school commitments, is not failure but wisdom. Reducing the load in small ways protects your ability to be emotionally present, which matters more than ticking off every task. 

Give Yourself Permission to Pause 

Lastly, give yourself permission to pause from the daily tasks. Breaks are not a sign of weakness but of strength in sustaining your role for the long term. Even five minutes of stillness, paired with a short dhikr, can reset your energy. Showing your children that you value balance will teach them to approach life with the same respect for their own limits. 

Spiritual Insight 

Trusting That Ease Follows Hardship 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Inshirah (94), Verses 5–6: 

‘Thus with (every) hardship there is facilitation (from Allah Almighty). Indeed, with hardship comes ease. Indeed, with (every) hardship there is facilitation (from Allah Almighty).’ 

This repetition assures believers that every difficulty is paired with relief, even if the ease does not arrive immediately in the form we expect. It may come as strength, resilience, or the clarity to make healthier choices about how to carry responsibilities. Trusting His wisdom means recognising that ease can look different from what we imagined. 

Be a Strong Believer: Seek Help and Take Action 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The strong believer is better and more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, while there is good in both. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not give up.’ 

[Sunan Ibn Majah, 1:79] 

This Hadith beautifully ties spiritual trust with practical action. A strong believer relies on Allah but also takes steps towards what will bring real benefit. For a parent, that means making dua while also adjusting routines, asking for support, and releasing what is unnecessary. 

By combining dua with practical shifts, you show trust in Allah’s wisdom and care for the Amanah He has placed in your hands. You are not failing when you feel overwhelmed; you are being called to re-centre, to lighten your load wisely, and to walk with both reliance and effort together.