How to Answer ‘Why Did Allah Take Our Home?’

Parenting Perspective

They Are Trying to Make Sense of Their Sadness

When children experience the loss of something as significant as their house, they naturally struggle to understand why such a change has happened. For them, a house is more than walls; it holds their routines, memories, and security. When they ask why Allah ‘took’ it, they are really trying to make sense of their sadness and the disruption they feel.

Acknowledge Their Pain

You can begin by acknowledging their pain. Say that it is normal to feel sad, angry, or confused, and that you feel it too. Avoid rushing them into gratitude or trying to minimise their feelings. Instead, remind them that even though you lost a house, what makes a home remains: the family bond, the love you share, and the presence of Allah’s mercy in your daily life.

Make the New Space Feel Special Together

Make the new space feel special together. Invite them to choose how to decorate their corner, bring in familiar items from the old house, or create new routines that anchor them. The act of building belonging together helps them see that home is not fixed to one place but grows wherever love and care exist.

Model Calm Resilience

At the same time, use gentle conversations to show them that life includes both ease and difficulty, and that these moments shape strength and reliance on Allah. By modelling calm resilience, while admitting that you also miss the old home, you show them that sadness and faith can exist side by side.

Spiritual Insight

True Safety Lies in Allah’s Care

This is a moment to remind your children that true safety and belonging do not lie in walls or possessions but in Allah’s care.

Our Eternal Home Is With Allah

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al-Ankabut (29), Verse 64:

‘And this worldly life is nothing but (destined for ultimate) destruction and (temporal) amusement; and indeed, the abode of the Hereafter, is the eternal life; if only they can become aware (of this reality).’

Here, Allah redirects us to understand that worldly homes and comforts are temporary, while our eternal home is with Him. This helps children see that while losing a house is painful, Allah has promised something far greater that lasts forever.

Look at Those Who Are Lower Than You

It is recorded in Jami al-Tirmidhi, Book 37, Hadith 99, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:

‘Look at those who are lower than you and do not look at those who are above you, for it is more suitable that you do not belittle the favours of Allah.’

Teaching your children this perspective gently helps them practise gratitude, even while they grieve. They can begin to notice the blessings that remain family, love, and the ability to worship Allah together.

By validating their sorrow, giving them agency in creating a new sense of home, and rooting their hope in both family and faith, you reassure your children that home was never lost, only reshaped. In this way, they learn that Allah’s care surrounds them everywhere.