How do we encourage children to follow role models who inspire faith,kindness, and humility rather than vanity? 

Parenting Perspective 

Leading by Your Own Example 

Children naturally admire who their parents admire. Make a habit of speaking positively about individuals, both from Islamic history and the present day, who exemplify humility, service, and strong faith. Share their stories or watch inspiring content about them together, letting your child see your genuine respect for these character-based qualities. 

Defining a True Role Model 

Have conversations that distinguish between fame and substance. Explain that a true role model is defined by their positive actions and character, not their follower count. Discuss admirable traits like honesty, generosity, and humility, and gently contrast these with the superficial qualities often celebrated by vanity-driven influencers. 

Curating Their Environment 

Actively create opportunities for your child to be exposed to positive influences. This could involve attending Islamic lectures for their age group, reading books about inspiring Muslims, or following content creators who excel in their fields while upholding their faith. This helps to naturally shift their admiration towards people who embody values worth emulating. 

Experiencing the Joy of Service 

Involve your child in activities centred on kindness and helping others, such as charity drives, community clean-ups, or helping at the local mosque. When they experience the deep satisfaction that comes from service, they begin to personally value humility and contribution, making them less susceptible to the allure of self-centred online culture. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches that humility is a cornerstone of a believer’s character and a key to earning Allah’s favour. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Luqman (31), Verse 18: 

‘And do not walk upon the earth arrogantly. Indeed, Allah does not like everyone self-deluded and boastful…‘ 

This verse serves as a clear caution against the very traits that vanity-driven culture promotes. It reminds children that arrogance and boastfulness are disliked by Allah, and therefore, admiring and emulating people who display these qualities can lead one away from the path of righteousness. 

Conversely, embracing humility is a source of immense honour and spiritual elevation. 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, 2588, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘No one humbles himself for the sake of Allah except that Allah raises him in status.‘ 

This beautiful hadith presents a powerful counter-narrative to the idea that self-promotion leads to success. It teaches children that true honour comes from humility. Following role models who embody this quality is not just about being a good person; it is a means of drawing closer to Allah and earning His reward.