How do I teach my child to respect other people’s feelings too? 

Parenting Perspective 

Use Real-Life Examples and Praise Empathy 

It is important for children to learn that while their own feelings matter, so do other people’s. Some children, especially when they feel overwhelmed or frustrated, may forget that their words or actions can hurt someone else’s heart. Helping them to understand this is part of growing a kind, thoughtful character. Use gentle words: ‘Your feelings matter, and so do the feelings of the people around you.’ 

Start with real-life examples. If your child shouts at a sibling or teases a friend, pause and ask, ‘How do you think they felt when you said that?’ You can practise simple ways to show respect, such as listening with your eyes and ears, apologising sincerely, or saying, ‘Are you okay?’ Remind them that they do not have to agree with everyone, but they should always try to speak kindly and notice how others are feeling. Praise small acts of empathy, like sharing a toy when someone is sad or giving a hug when someone cries. Over time, these tiny moments will grow into a habit of thinking beyond themselves, seeing that respect is not just about good manners but about protecting hearts. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us that our words and actions towards others are seen and rewarded by Allah Almighty. Allah Almighty says in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 11: 

‘Those of you who are believers, do not let a nation ridicule another nation, as perhaps it may be that they are better than them….’ 

This Ayah reminds your child that every feeling we hurt carelessly is known to Allah Almighty, and every act of kindness brings blessings. 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 2594a, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Gentleness is not in anything except that it beautifies it…’ 

Teach your child that showing gentleness towards others’ feelings makes their own heart beautiful too. Encourage them to make a small Dua when they feel angry with someone: ‘Ya Allah, help me speak gently and protect their heart.’ Over time, these small spiritual habits will help your child to see that respecting other people’s feelings is not just about rules, it is a way of living that brings them closer to Allah Almighty’s mercy.