Parenting Perspective 

Set Clear Expectations for Content 

Setting screen rules that support a good gender identity involves creating a balanced approach where your child can enjoy technology while also learning the value of respect and equality. You can start by setting clear expectations for the content they consume, ensuring it aligns with your values of fairness, respect, and modesty. You might say, ‘We will use technology to learn, to connect with others, and to have fun. But we also need to make sure the content we watch or interact with reflects our values of respect for all genders.’ 

Encourage Critical Thinking 

Teach your child to recognise the way gender is portrayed in the media and help them to understand when something might be reinforcing stereotypes or unrealistic expectations. ‘If you see a character acting in a way that does not seem fair or respectful to both boys and girls, I want you to think about whether that is the way we should treat each other in real life.’ This helps your child to develop their critical thinking skills and to become more aware of gender dynamics in the media. 

Promote Positive Role Models 

Encourage your child to follow positive role models in the media who promote good character, equality, and mutual respect. ‘Let us follow content that shows both men and women as capable, strong, and respectful individuals. We can learn a lot from people who live by these values.’ Make sure that they have access to media that reflects these principles, whether it is through educational shows, documentaries, or books that highlight gender equality. 

Balance Screen Time with Other Activities 

Finally, you should set limits on screen time to ensure your child spends time engaging in other activities that promote a healthy self-esteem and positive social interactions. ‘Let us balance our screen time with activities like reading, sports, or spending time with friends and family. This will help us to grow in all areas of our lives.’ 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, both men and women are encouraged to contribute equally to society and have an equal worth in the eyes of Allah. Allah Almighty says in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 13: 

‘O mankind, indeed, We (Allah Almighty) have created you all from one man and one woman; and placed you amongst various nations and tribes for your introduction to each other; indeed, the best of you in the judgement of Allah (Almighty) is the one who is most virtuous; indeed, Allah (Almighty) is the Omniscient, the all Cognisant.’ 

This verse teaches that gender is not a basis for superiority or inferiority; righteousness and good deeds are what matter in the sight of Allah. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ also demonstrated equality between men and women. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 3587, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The best of you are those who are the best to their families.’ 

This Hadith reinforces that the value of an individual, regardless of their gender, lies in their character and their actions. By setting screen rules that support a good gender identity, you are teaching your child to align their understanding of gender with the values of equality, respect, and righteousness that are taught in Islam.