How do I manage situations where I feel I am losing control but I still need to guide my child through the problem? 

Parenting Perspective 

Functioning under pressure is a common requirement of parenting. Even if you are not at ease, your child still requires guidance. During those times, speak more simply and with a lower voice. Use succinct, reaffirming phrases like I need us to calm down. Let us give it another go. Reduce outside stimuli as much as you can by sitting down together, moving to a more peaceful area, or turning down the lights. Repeating, I am the thermostat, not the thermometer, will help you modify your internal attitude if your surroundings are unchangeable. Instead of absorbing the emotional tone, this reminder assists you in setting it. Your composure gives your child a place to land, even if it does not immediately control them. Parenting leadership is about anchoring enough emotion to keep someone else afloat, not about being emotionless. 

Spiritual Insight 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ led not only in comfort but also in exhaustion, sorrow, and under tremendous pressure from society. He demonstrated to us that presence, not emotional perfection, is what is needed for guiding. Allah Almighty commands in the noble Quran in Surah Taaha (20), Verse 44: 

“But speak to him in a polite manner, so that he may realise, or be in awe (of what you are relating to him). “

When Prophet Musa (AS) faced the most repressive of rulers, the Pharaoh, he received this guidance. How much more empathy is due to a child who is still learning right from wrong if constraint was necessary even at that precise moment? It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 3689, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

“Allah Almighty is Gentle and loves gentleness in all things.” 

Being calm in the face of internal turmoil is not a performance; rather, it is a sign of prophetic power. You are steering through emotion, not repressing it. And by doing this, you are setting an example of mercy that has a greater impact on people’s hearts than words ever could.