How do I make sure my child knows they can come to me even when I am busy on a screen? 

Parenting Perspective 

Children are very perceptive about whether a parent is truly approachable. If they frequently see you absorbed in a device, they may begin to hesitate before speaking up. The goal is not to eliminate screens, but to create an atmosphere where your child always feels confident that their needs will be acknowledged. 

Set Clear Verbal and Non-Verbal Signals 

Use both verbal and non-verbal signals to show you are available. Tell your child explicitly that they can always come to you, even if you look busy. It is vital to back this up with physical cues. The moment they approach, practise looking up from your screen, softening your tone of voice, and turning your body towards them. 

Acknowledge Immediately, Respond Fully Later 

If you cannot stop what you are doing, learn to acknowledge the interruption immediately and promise to respond fully later. A warm but quick response like, ‘I hear you, and that sounds important. I just need to finish this one thing, and then I can listen properly’, works well. Following through without delay is crucial for building their trust in your word. 

Create Intentional Open Spaces in Screen Time 

Punctuate your screen time with intentional ‘open spaces’. This means scheduling your own small breaks from work or leisure to proactively check in with your child. This teaches them a powerful lesson: that they do not have to fight for your attention because you will seek them out yourself. 

When these habits become a consistent part of your family life, your child learns that your attention is both accessible and dependable, creating a sense of security even in a digitally busy home. 

Spiritual Insight 

Being emotionally available for our children is a core part of the amanah (trust) that Allah has placed upon parents. Making them feel safe and welcome to approach us is a practical way of fulfilling this sacred duty. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Anfaal (8), Verse 27: 

‘ O you who are believers, do not ever be pretentious (in following the commandment) of Allah (Almighty) and His Prophet (Muhammad ﷺ)…’ 

This powerful verse reminds us not to betray our trusts. Part of the great trust of parenting is providing our children with a consistent sense of emotional safety and making them feel like a priority in our lives. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1919, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘He is not one of us who does not show mercy to our young and respect to our elders.’ 

This teaches us that showing mercy to our children is an essential part of our faith. This mercy is not just about physical care, but also about being consistently approachable, warm, and responsive to their emotional needs. 

By signalling your availability through both your words and actions, you help your child to trust that their voice is important and will never be dismissed. This consistency is what strengthens their emotional bond and deepens their confidence in your love.