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How can I protect my bond with my child when there is tension in the home?

Parenting Perspective

Your emotional availability becomes even more important when tension in the home increases. To reassure your child that your love is unwavering in the face of disagreement, schedule quick moments of connection, such as a smile, eye contact, or a tender touch. Even when things are difficult at home, you can say, ‘I love you.’ ‘Mummy and Daddy need a moment to calm down; I will be with you in a minute’ is a straightforward way to acknowledge high levels of stress. Your relationship is anchored, and safety is signalled by these small acts of presence.

Spiritual Insight

Mercy (Rahmah) is essential in turbulent moments. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 10: ‘Indeed, the believers are brothers (to each other) …’
Disunity can be healed with compassion. The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ modelled repairing tense situations with gentleness. It is recorded in Sunan Nisai, Hadith 1304, that he recommended seeking refuge and calm in family tensions through prayer, as he prayed, ‘I ask You for steadfastness in all my affairs and determination in following the right path, I ask You to make me thankful for Your blessings and to make me worship You properly. I ask You for a sound heart and a truthful tongue. I ask You for the best of what You know, and I seek refuge in You from the worst of what.’ This prophetic balance of justice and mercy is reflected in resolving conflict while remaining emotionally present.

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