How can I prepare my child to stay calm when they get frustrated in public or social settings (e.g. Masjid)? 

Parenting Perspective 

A lot of children, especially those still learning about their emotions and behaviour, may find public spaces and their expectations overwhelming. The Masjid, where a calm atmosphere and respectful conduct are essential, can be particularly challenging for children who are tired, overstimulated, or anxious. These reactions do not reflect disrespect they signal a need for support and guidance. 

Prepare your child ahead of time 

Set your child up for success by discussing the visit beforehand. Explain: 

• What the Masjid looks like 

• Who will be there 

• What sounds they might hear 

• What behaviour is expected 

Use pretend play or visual stories with key phrases: 

• When we feel upset, we take a breath and wait. 

Offer calming aids: 

• A textured Tasbeeh 

• A stress stone 

• A soft item to hold 

Provide options for managing overstimulation: 

• We can go outside for a short break if needed. 

Let your child know the expected duration of your visit. Most importantly, celebrate any attempt they make at self-control, no matter how small. Consistency, gentle boundaries, and emotional modelling help children build social confidence gradually not through pressure, but by reinforcing safety and respect. 

Spiritual Insight 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Fatah (48), Verse 4: 

‘He (Allah Almighty) is the One Who has transmitted tranquillity into the hearts of the believers; so that they may advance in the faith (strengthening) their (current) faith…. ‘

This verse affirms that emotional peace is a divine gift. By helping children nurture tranquillity in sacred spaces, especially the Masjid, we instil a purpose behind their emotional growth—rooted in love for Allah Almighty and trust in His environment. 

Holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ modelled profound compassion towards children in congregational settings. It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 376: 

‘Indeed I hear the crying of a small boy while I am in Salat, so I shorten it in fear that his mother may be tormented. ‘

This Hadith teaches that understanding and empathy should guide our response to children’s struggles in public worship. Parents can guide their child to say a simple prayer when they feel overwhelmed: 

‘O Allah, grant me a calm heart. ‘

With consistent reinforcement, this practice becomes both a spiritual habit and a gentle tool for emotional regulation. Over time, children begin to see the Masjid not as a place of pressure, but as a sanctuary where their emotions are understood and where they can build a meaningful bond with Allah Almighty.