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How can I make time for each of my children individually when life is busy?

Parenting Perspective

It takes intention, not hours, to provide individualized attention. A child’s value can be profoundly affirmed by even 10 to 15 minutes a day of unstructured one-on-one time when they direct the activity or conversation. Make use of ordinary moments: one youngster assists you in the kitchen, while another has a conversation before bed. Change your routines. Like any other chore, put it in your calendar if necessary. Kids do not remember how much time you spent with them; they remember how you made them feel. Sibling rivalry decreases and emotional trust grows when every child feels ‘seen.’

Spiritual Insight

Each soul is different and needs special attention. Each companion was treated by the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ based on their own abilities and temperaments. It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1705, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: ‘Indeed, each of you is a shepherd, and each of you is responsible for his flock.’ Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Israa (17), Verse 84: ‘Say (O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ): ‘Each person acts according to their own temperament, so your Sustainer is fully aware as to who is the one, who (has chosen) the rightly guided pathways’.’ It serves as a reminder that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting. It is not favouritism to give each child the attention they deserve; rather, it is the fulfilment of an Amanah.

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