How can I help my child have positive and respectful talks with teachers? 

Parenting Perspective 

Fostering a Positive Mindset and Practising Respectful Speech 

Teach your child that teachers are guides, not judges. Encourage them to see conversations with teachers to learn and grow. Practise respectful speech at home, use phrases like, ‘I understand your point,’ or ‘Can I ask a question about this?’ Role-play how to ask for help or clarify misunderstandings. Say, ‘Imagine your teacher is there to help you succeed, how would you speak to someone who wants the best for you?’ 

The Importance of Modelling Respect 

Children often mirror what they see. If you speak respectfully about teachers at home, your child is more likely to do the same. Support them in writing polite emails or preparing what to say during meetings. Let them know that being polite does not mean staying silent, it means using words wisely. Positive teacher relationships also boost confidence, making school a safer and more encouraging space. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam deeply values respectful communication, especially with those in positions of trust and knowledge. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Israa (17), Verse 23: 

‘…And talk to them with kind words. ‘

While this verse addresses parents, the principle applies broadly: honour those who guide you with dignified speech. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1921, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘He is not one of us who does not have mercy upon our young and respect for our elders. ‘

Teachers often hold both roles, mentors in knowledge and elders in experience. Teaching your child to approach them with honour reflects Islamic etiquette. 

Help your child see that speaking respectfully to teachers is not about pleasing people, it is about embodying Islamic Adab (manners). Guide them to view respectful speech as a form of Sabr and Ihsan. Whether they are praising, questioning, or disagreeing, remind them: their character is on display. 

When conversations are shaped with humility and sincerity, your child’s words carry weight. They begin to understand that Islamic excellence includes how we treat those who teach us, and that every respectful exchange is a step towards wisdom and Barakah.