How can I explain feelings of being ‘addicted’ to games or videos? 

Parenting Perspective 

Normalise the Feeling, Not the Behaviour 

Sometimes children say, ‘I feel addicted’ or ‘I cannot stop watching’ when it comes to games, videos, or endless scrolling. This can make them feel ashamed or out of control, especially if they do not understand why stopping feels so difficult. Start by helping your child to see that wanting more time on something fun is normal, but when it takes over their mind and mood, it can feel like they are stuck. Use gentle words: ‘Screens can make our brain want more and more, but you are stronger than a screen.’ 

Look for the Feelings Underneath 

Talk about the real feelings that might be underneath. Ask them: ‘What does your heart feel like when you stop? Do you feel bored, lonely, or sad?’ This helps them to see what they might be trying to escape from. Together, you can set healthy limits, not as a punishment, but as a way to protect their heart and mind. Practise simple ways to take breaks, such as setting a timer, choosing an activity to do next, or having a family ‘tech-free’ hour. Praise your child for noticing when they feel too pulled in. Let them know you will not shame them for slipping up; you will help them gently. Over time, these small conversations help your child to understand that feeling ‘addicted’ does not make them a bad person; it means they can learn new ways to handle the pull, one step at a time. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam reminds us to keep our hearts balanced and not let anything worldly distract us completely from our purpose. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Aala (87), Verse 16–17: 

‘Even then, you (O man) prefer the life of the (material) world. Even though the Hereafter is superior and eternal.’ 

This Ayah teaches us that too much attachment to something that numbs us can pull our heart away from what really matters. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 3372, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Dua is worship.’ 

Teach your child a small Dua for when they feel stuck: ‘Ya Allah, help me use my time wisely and keep my heart balanced.’ This gentle prayer reminds them that they are not alone in the struggle; Allah Almighty knows how screens can grab hold of us, and He gives us the strength to choose better. By making these moments open, calm, and linked to faith, your child will learn that they do not have to feel trapped by games or videos; they can find freedom and balance with your support and Allah Almighty’s mercy.