After a heated argument, we just move on like nothing happened. Should we be openly acknowledging conflict resolution for our child’s sake? 

Parenting Perspective 

The Danger of Unresolved Tension 

For your child, the emotional gap that results from sweeping past arguments without repair may provide a temporary boost in moving forward, but it is an origin of uncertainty. Children are incredibly perceptive. They see the tone shifts, the slammed doors, the stillness, and when those times are never addressed or handled in front of them, they are left to draw their own conclusions. They may internalise blame, feel emotionally unsafe, or grow up believing that disputes disappear rather than being handled through empathy and discussion. 

A Strategy for Modelling Repair 

You do not have to involve them in every detail, but you should demonstrate what healthy resolution looks like. This could be as simple as letting them overhear one parent say, “I am sorry for the way I spoke earlier,” or “We had a disagreement, but we talked it through and we are okay now.” These subtle signs create a sense of security and educate your child that conflicts are not the end of connection, but rather a necessary part of it, which can be managed with maturity and care. Without this modelling, children may either fear conflict or repeat unhealthy silence in their own relationships. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam stresses reconciliation over avoidance. Conflict is an inevitable component of human contact, but the ultimate goal is to restore equilibrium. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Anfaal (8), Verse 1: 

‘… So seek piety from Allah (Almighty), and correct (all matters in the relationships) between yourselves; and obey Allah (Almighty) and His Prophet (Muhammad ﷺ), if you are true believers.’ 

This text emphasises that restoration is a spiritual responsibility. Avoiding outward drama is insufficient; true righteousness is demonstrated by sincerely fixing what is damaged. It is recorded in Sunan Abu Dawood, Hadith 4919, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Shall I not inform you of something more excellent in degree than fasting, prayer, and almsgiving? It is putting things right between people… ‘

Even in parenting, this includes silent lessons. When children experience an apology, forgiveness, and a peaceful resolution, they are learning the art of mercy, mending, and valuing relationships above all else.